To build a God-centered relationship doesn’t happen by chance, it is intentional. This kind of relationship is principally about building a relationship that glorifies God and here are some practical ways you could do to keep that fire you have for having a God-centered relationship.
Spend time with God
“When you stay connected with God… You won’t want to sin. You will want to please GOD. You want what you put in front of your face” — Heather Lindsey
If you continue to seek God by reading the Bible and praying regularly, He could lead you to a clear path of not crossing your boundaries as a couple whose just dating or helps you to disregard the wrong persons because they will just be a destruction for you. Though it is hard to stay with what He wants to happen in your love life, continue to pray and ask for strength to be able to pass through these trials.
Know Your Boundaries
Setting boundaries with the one you are dating could make you feel uncomfortable, but when would you set boundaries? Is it when you’re about to cross the line? Just like the famous saying stands for, “Prevention is better than cure”, it will be hard if you’ll demand for it when you have done or almost done it. Imagine yourself in a situation where your lips are nearly two centimeters away from each other, could you still cut that and tell them you shouldn’t be doing that? A lot would say, they couldn’t coz they are in the moment, though others say that could.
Don’t hesitate to tackle it with your partner, the real one would understand why you are to keep boundaries. To avert miscommunication, you should know how to communicate clearly.
Look for an Accountability Partner
If you are already dating someone or planning to date someone, find a person whom you could call an accountability partner. He or she is a person who could help you in your dating, the one who could set a good example and has a lot of wisdom to share with you and your partner.
You could also opt for a solo-accountability partner, who you could meet with alone, in any case of who you’re dating. The other is to meet with an accountability couple, who could share insights on how you are to handle the misunderstanding in your relationship, how to maintain the honeymoon stage of relationship. This looks just like the two of you assembly with some who’s more mature in their relationship. The advantage to this is as your relationship grows, you could be an example and be an accountability couple to others.
Lust versus Love
Setting boundary lines in a relationship could be hard especially when your love language is touch. No matter how much you used to kiss your parents every night before you sleep, or before leaving the house, you cut that thing on your girlfriend. You embrace your friends, but you don’t do that to your girlfriend because you’re afraid that, that will affect your relationship and drive you to where you are not supposed to be at this stage. Because you know that it is possible for you to hug or kiss your girlfriend to show your love but it could possibly be out of passion too.
Acknowledge if you’ve crossed the Line
If the two of you agreed that you’re not kissing until the pastor said “You may now kiss the bride” and then you start making out after watching an intimate scene in Netflix, call it out, meaning you stop and remind each other of your boundaries. Because if you won’t admit to yourselves that you’ve done a mistake, you will repeatedly do this. It is easier to bypass your whole agreement when you’ve started breaking the first rule.
A God-centered relationship is based on how God wants a relationship to be like, not what this world dictates to every couple in each town. Love your partner like the kind of love God has for us, be slow to anger and quick to forgive.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
NOTE: If you don’t see yourself marrying the person you are with now, it’s best to talk about the future of your relationship.