There’s a misconception that married people only make mistakes after spending a couple of years together. Without even knowing it, some may have habits as early in the marriage that contribute to possible failure in the long run. Here are a few of them that you want to avoid:
You put yourself in a pedestal. No one should assume a more powerful position than the other. While it’s okay to show natural leadership skills in family decisions, you should not overpower or try to dominate your spouse.
You make financial decisions on your own. Your wallets became one too, so you do not want to make big decisions without consulting with your partner beforehand. It doesn’t matter if you see yourself as the main supplier in the family. You still have to consider what your spouse has to say.
You’re not showing empathy. One of the most important aspects of a relationship is showing empathy. Usually, women are better in this area while men tend to skip the talk and fix issues straight away. It is important to listen and understand each other first; sometimes you need compassion more than an ASAP solution.
You shove your feelings in because ‘it is your job to understand.’ Being married does not mean that you have to tolerate each other’s flaws for as long as you live. Recognize whether your reaction is petty and unnecessary, or vital to be addressed in order to have a happy and long relationship.
Take Hollywood couple Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel’s advice on marriage. “Communication, communication, communication,” Jessica shares their secret with People in 2018. “The ability to be really honest about how you’re feeling and what your needs are. Just be able to communicate really honestly with your partner. That’s worked for us so far. I would never want to speak on anyone else’s relationship, but that’s what we do.”